“Role Models” of Today


It’s been a while since I’ve written – I have been doing a million different things. A little warning in advance for the amount of sass in this particular blog, and here we go…


The internet is awesome. I love it. It’s so helpful and educational and I love how it really inspires the younger generation. For example, the following are a few wonderful messages that the youth of today are receiving from their so-called “role models” from social media:

-Bullying is ok as long you call it “pranking”, and it’s ok to do so to your friends and complete strangers.

-Calling your friends bad names is ok because it shows how much you love them.

-Teens don’t need to have big dreams for their future because evidently, they can make millions talking crap and acting like apes as long as they upload it onto a social media platform.

-It’s ok to be a jerk as long as you have lots of money and a good body.

See? Inspiring! 


I woke up this morning angry – angry at the lack of online security and monitoring that so much inappropriate material can be so readily available for young children; at the lack of adult supervision that these children are even able to access this kind of material; at the lack of internet safety awareness and education that children receive; at the lack of common sense of these children and teens who watch this stuff and imitate ridiculous behaviours and idolise these people; and most of all, angry at the people who upload all this OBVIOUSLY INAPPROPRIATE DISRESPECTFUL POOP on social media, completely aware of the ages of their viewers and followers, but whatevs “dab at the haters” “lol yolo” “swag” and other nonsensical acronyms and made up modern slang, you irresponsible moldy eggplants!

I mean, did you know…. That there is a reason why there are age restrictions in order to register for an account on YouTube or Instagram?

Did you know…. That there is button you can click when you upload videos on YouTube if you feel like your videos aren’t appropriate for certain ages?

Did you know…. That there’s an amazing device called a BRAIN which should help you control the things you do or say before you put it out there on social media, making it accessible to the entire world?

-Annnnnnd, did you know…. That there’s an equally wonderful app called COMMON SENSE (which sometimes comes already installed in the device but usually not, depending on the model) which allows you TO NOT IMITATE BAD BEHAVIOUR you see on a screen, or idolise those people who you don’t even know (and who are oftentimes adults and should also have already downloaded this app but clearly have not).

Did you know all that? I didn’t know that. JUST KIDDING!

I am not just angry – I’m disappointed and scared for the future of humanity…. yet again.

It’s bad enough that things like school shootings are STILL happening and alllllll the other global issues that I don’t even have the energy to go into right now, but now our children are being exposed to so much unsuitable, vulgar and tasteless content and we don’t even know. Just because the video icon seems innocent, or it’s a cartoon, or it hasn’t been flagged and isn’t on the restricted list, doesn’t mean that it’s ok.

Look, I know that practically every child nowadays has a device; whether it’s a phone, a tablet, or a laptop or whatever; and these things are great, they really are. My children (10 and 5) each have one, and this is what they use it for: educational research (reading), looking up images for drawing inspiration, music, how-to tutorials for crafting, dancing, and Minecraft, finding song lyrics, cartoons on YouTube, movie streaming, games, and designing and editing.

This is how we go about it: the 10yo has a Google account to which I have access on my Google drive (and actually, vice versa) and all settings are on safety and restricted mode to prevent inappropriate search/ video suggestions popping up. The 5yo’s device is set up with the 10yo’s account and all devices have the same security settings, which I double check every week or so because sometimes settings get changed accidentally. They have a time limit on how much screen time they get, depending on what they want it for, but I’m not overly strict. Both of my children check with me if they are unsure of whether or not a video or website is appropriate but more importantly, they both have the common sense to know that some content is just not meant for them to watch, regardless of what their friends say (“It’s so funny” “He’s so cool”) and every day I am grateful for that.

By the way, as I’m writing this, I’ve calmed down a bit 🙂 (breaaaaaaaathe Tash)

However, I can’t completely blame the youngsters for what they watch or see online -they don’t have enough internet safety awareness for the countless social media platforms available to them. Nowadays, it’s not as simple as “Don’t talk to strangers online (or meet them)”  or “That song has swearing in it” because the dangers are more subtle.

Too many songs are filled with inappropriate innuendos that warp and damage people’s self-esteem and self-worth, but they are so catchy and youngsters are oblivious to the underlying, and oftentimes vulgar, messages of the lyrics (then there are also some songs are just blatantly obscene). Song titles are innocent and many artists are very talented, but the messages they are belting out to the younger generation aren’t respectful or inspiring.

*Quick but important shout out before I continue to such people as Kidz Bop Kids and AsapSCIENCE who have taken these fun beats with bad lyrics and made them appropriate and educational for children I LOVE YOU!*

I really don’t want my son thinking that “The club isn’t the best place to find a lover” so the bar is where he should go, nor do I want my daughter thinking that love is painful but “It’s alright because I love the way you lie”

“But I’m gonna keep your jeans/ And your old black hat – cause I wanna/ They look good on me/ You’re never gonna get them back/ At least not today, not today, not today” That’s good. Teach girls that after a break up, stealing is acceptable.

I don’t care who you are, where you’re from, what you did As long as you love me…” So abusive relationships are also fine, as long as you love me and also “It ain’t my fault you keep turning me on/ It ain’t my fault you got, got me so gone/ It ain’t my fault I’m not leavin’ alone/ It ain’t my fault you keep turning me on” Perfect, teach our kids to not be accountable for their actions and to just blame it on someone else because they’re “too irresistible”, but hey, catchy beats to dance to.

Now, vlogging (video blogging) is an amazing way to share your stories, talents and messages to the world and some vloggers have really inspired not only youngsters, but adults as well. I am touched by some of these people on YouTube who open up and share difficult, personal experiences in order to inspire others. I am in awe of the incredible talents of so many people that I’ve watched online; musical, artistic, scientific, physical, and ….. other. Inspiring children, teens, and adults, who make vlogs sharing amazing thoughts, opinions, and advice on different topics and are wonderful to watch! Then, there are vloggers who encourage ridiculous, sometimes dangerous, and at times just completely moronic challenges; vloggers who complain, talk badly about everything and everyone, swear, pull pranks, bully people, are disrespectful, ungrateful, and ramble pointless froth for the sake of viewers, likes, followers, “reactions”, and money. 

WHY would anyone in their right mind challenge others to: pour boiling on someone, get sunburned intentionally and turn it into art, or cut off your air supply and see how long it takes to faint?!?!?!?!?!

“It’s just a prank, bro!” LOL, you’re right, it’s hilarious: I got murdered prank, blowing up my kid prank….. How is any of this acceptable, or funny and NO – calling it a “social experiment” does not justify your disgusting or cruel behaviour.

In addition to absence of value in these messages that are influencing our children, these idolised people on social media are promoting and encouraging a whole new version of the English language which includes acronyms of like 20 words put together and a selection of new slang that irritates me to no end. Acronyms like LOL and OMG have been around for awhile, but some of these new ones just have me reaching for more coffee because I just don’t get it! Whyyyyyyy? Why you all teaching children to speak like disssssss???? I no understand!!!! 

Youngsters are communicating with each other (and in general) in this obscure language; it’s like modern Morse Code; and it’s getting a little…… OTT ;P Seriously though, English is already a difficult language to master, with all the strange pronunciations, sly silent letters, grammatical rules, spelling rules and then all the exceptions that don’t follow those rules; but with this new urban slang, the youth of today are losing the ability to communicate and express themselves clearly, coherently, effectively or intelligently. 

Personally, I already have difficulty with posts like: “OMFG i luv freinds, there the best!”  but now I need to scroll past: “dam #mcm my bae hawtaf “ and “b!%$ hbd ilu 4evr #squadgoals” or “bruh cant go out rip fml so not cool #kms i hear the partys gonna b lit af” OMG WHAT ARE YOU EVEN SAYING, CHILD?!?

Here is a short guide to help you decipher some the things our our children are messaging, posting, and saying:


ASAP – As Soon As Possible

LOL – Laugh Out Loud

BRB – Be Right Back

OTW – On The Way

G2G – Got To Go

BTW – By The Way

FYI – For Your Information

OMG – Oh My God

OMFG – Oh My Fruity God

PM/ DM – Private Message/ Direct Message (the latter used in apps such as Instagram and Snapchat)

PPL – People

TGIF – Thank God It’s Friday

YOLO – You Only Live Once

IDKIDC – I Don’t Know and I Don’t Care

OTT – Over The Top


FBO – FaceBook Official; used when a relationship status is officially changed on Facebook.

FOMO – Fear Of Missing Out; used to express anxiety over the possibility of missing out on something like an event or party.

TBH – To Be Honest

IMO/ IMHO – In My Opinion/ Humble Opinion

MCM – Man Crush Monday; usually used as a status only on Mondays to show off to the world the man you have a crush on, regardless of whether you are in a relationship, married, or not.

MYOB – Mind Your Own Business

TMI – Too Much Information

IRL – In Real Life

TLDR – Too Long Didn’t Read

SMH – Shaking My Head

BD – Big Deal; sometimes used sarcastically, as in “who cares?”

NBD – No Big Deal

NTS – Note To Self; used as a reminder for oneself, but usually posted publicly, thus reminding everyone so…..

NVM – NeVer Mind

HTH – Hope This Helps

WBU – What aBout You?

RIP – used to indicate that something has failed or fallen through; e.g. “I tried to do a trick but I fell. RIP”

WDYM/ WDYMBT – What Do You Mean/ By That?

WYD – What are You Doing?

ORLY – Oh Really?

Bruh – nickname for “bro” but mispronounced

Fam – used for close friends that are like family

Squad – used to describe your close friendship group; e.g. “(pic of beach holiday) squad goals” = Future aspiration for my group of friends one day.

Lit – adjective; cool; awesome

Gucci – adjective; cool; awesome

Straight fire – adjective; hot; cool

Savage – adjective; cool

I’m weak – That was so funny (therefore I am so weak from laughing)

Extra – adjective; overly dramatic; over the top

Noob – an amateur; beginner

Woke – adjective; to describe being highly aware of social issues


BAE – Before Anyone Else; a term of endearment usually used when dating; also short for “baby”

Curve – verb; to reject someone romantically

HMY – Hate My Life

I can’t even – I’m speechless

KMS/ KYS – Kill MySelf/ YourSelf

Lit – adjective; when describing a person, it means highly intoxicated

Low Key – adjective; secret; private; don’t tell anyone; e.g. “I low key have a crush on him.”

MFL – Fruit My Life (you know what I mean)

NSFW – Not Safe For Work (or school or home if parents around); used to let other people know when a topic, conversation or content to share is not appropriate at the moment because authority figures are present

Salty – adjective; to be bitter about someone or something

Sip tea – mind your own business

Skurt – verb; go away

Thicc – adjective; used when objectifying a curvy female body

Thirsty – adjective; to be desperate for something (usually sexually)

Throw shade – verb; to give someone a nasty look or say something unpleasant to/ about them

Turned/ Turnt – highly intoxicated

9 – a parent is watching me

99 – parent is gone


#ana – anorexia

#deb – depression

#sue – suicide

#svv – self-harming behaviour

#thinsp – thinspiration (content that inspires a person to want to be thin)

So! In conclusion, (because I am exhausted) GET WOKE PPL! Communicate with your children and get to know what they’re watching/ reading/ listening to so you know what’s going on. Educate them so they can be aware and make better choices online. Introduce them to more inspiring and educational content (preferably content that uses proper English too 🙂 ). We do our best to raise kind, loving, well-mannered, children, but we are not their only influence and unfortunately, many youngsters will choose to emulate the behaviour and language of a savagely lit vlogger who is totes phat and is woke af and them weak than their boring parents or teachers.

We can’t control what is posted on the internet, but we can educate and raise awareness.

Please, let’s do something about this ASAP because TBH, I can’t even.

x Pistachio x


Label Boxes, Not Children

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Those who know me well, would probably be aware of how much I dislike labels and boxes. Not in the stationary-related way, because that, I love; I mean in the labelling-people-and-put-them-into-little-neat-boxes way. Nerd, bully, good, bad, black, white and so forth. Humans are not little colourful binders that I can arrange on my shelf. We don’t fit, and we shouldn’t have to.

Labelling begins at an early age and it starts with two very simple labels: Good girl/boy and naughty/ bad girl/boy. 

What I would like to emphasize, to all of us parental types, is that when we say these statements, we are telling our children that he/she, as a whole person is “bad” or “good”, like food that’s “rotten” or “fresh”. When we flip out, and our mouths move faster than our brains than comprehend, we unintentionally lay a foundation within our children that they can only be one or the other: good or bad, and the more often we instill this black and white foundation of thinking, the more likely our children will grow up believing that that is all they can be, thus that is what they will become.
So I urge you, please, to remember that when you are about to tell your children that they are “bad” or “naughty” , that they are not. Remember that it isn’t your child that is upsetting you and is being bad, it is their behaviour or their words, and that these things can be changed and they do not define who your child is as a whole person. Positive and healthy communication isn’t only reserved for adult conversation. In fact, instead of constantly pointing our waggly fingers outwards, let’s bring it back to ourselves; instead of only pointing out their behaviours/words, why don’t we point out we are feeling.
Instead of “You are so naughty!” how about “Your behaviour is really disrespectful and inappropriate and it’s upsetting me.”
Instead of “You’re being a bad girl/boy!” how about “The way you’re talking to me right now makes me really sad and disappointed, because it’s rude and hurts my feelings.”
From my years of working with children as a teacher, mother, adult person, big sister, friend and alien companion, a few of the important things I have learned are:
-Children (and other living creatures in general, actually) will respond better when approached with love. Not coddling, but love; gentle (though firm) and honest (without aggression).
-Children understand more than we give them credit.
-Defense mechanisms are formed very early on, and if we attack (verbally or energetically), they will react and defend in whatever way they know at that age.
In saying all of this, I am reminding myself just as much as I am trying to get the message out. Especially living in Indonesia, where we may hear a lot of nakal this and nakal that when describing children. So let’s remember that no matter what, our children are not “bad”; perhaps they’re upset, hurt, frustrated, or so sad, but are just unable to express all of these emotions in a way that doesn’t involve a tantrum. Sometimes our little mini-me’s are far from perfect, but so are we – and at times, their behaviour and attitude can be downright poopy (at any age), but it doesn’t mean they are poops.
In conclusion, I have been listening to too many high-pitched, irritating cartoons in the background and my vocabulary needs a booster, so I’m off to do some studying.
Sending you all much love and smushy cuddles.
Pistachio x

Finding the Balance…


These rocks are balancing better than I am. Rocks.

I have never been very good at finding the balance that everyone speaks of, but what I’ve been struggling with lately is sleeping.

Most might find this amusing because one might think, “If you’re tired, go to sleep.” Simple right? Yes, but my brain doesn’t work that way.

Those who know me, know very well that my life is almost 24 hours child-centered – my own and my homeschool little ones. When my hours aren’t spent with children, it’s the environment – the cleaning and organising (note, I don’t say cooking because that just doesn’t happen). So come 9pm, when little ones are tucked up in bed, it’s my turn.

To study, to work, to watch back-to-back episodes of whatever, and sometimes, most times, I forget about the sleep part that’s supposed to come at night. Just as I throw myself into my children’s lives and education 110%, the same throwing goes into personal work and studies.

Hopefully, one day, I’ll be able to find the balance where sleep becomes important, but for now, those hours are my peaceful me-time, where I am unbothered, nobody is looking for me, and I can delve 110% in my current interests.

I’ll let the rocks do the balancing for now, and I am going to go study.

Pistachio x

Why? How? And Everything in Between


School: – an institution for educating children.

Education: – the process of receiving or giving systematic instruction, especially at a school or university.

Learning: – the acquisition of knowledge or skills through experience, study, or by being taught.

*A note to say that the following does not apply to every school or institution. The following is opinion and experience based, although I have done some research before I even began rambling.

According to these definitions that I googled, it seems that a school is a place where systematic instructions are given. Well! No wonder most children hate school. Where is the learning? Where is the experience? Where is the critical thinking and problem solving? Where are life skills? Where is the preparation for reality? Where is the freedom of choice? Where is the self?

“Sit down. Open your books. Copy the work. Repeat. Now here’s a test. What do you remember? Bad memory? Obviously you aren’t intelligent = fail.” Memory is tested and intelligence is measured in numbers and letters.

Today I sat down with my children and I asked them, “Why am I here? What is my purpose of being here?” The answers they gave (after a few seconds of confused silence) were wonderfully insightful.

“To teach us about life.”

“To show us how to be brave.”

“To let us be ourselves.”

“To make sure we don’t end up like some of those grown ups out there.”

“To teach us how to be independent and responsible.”
“To give us a safe place to be when we’re not at home.”

“To learn real stuff.”

I was almost brought to tears by the amount of trust and love that I felt by their words. Not one of them said, “To teach us how to do division.” Then I asked them, “Why are you here?”

“To learn how to deal with emotions.”

“To learn how to look after ourselves so we don’t grow up lazy.”

“To learn about things we really want to learn about.”

“To know more about everything.”

“To know me.”

“To be happy and have fun.”

“To learn what’s happening everywhere.”

This is where it becomes absolutely clear that Bali One Love is not a school. So what are we? What category do we go under? I’m not sure yet. All I know is that all of us – the little humans and the bigger humans – want to be here. we choose to be here, and that is powerful.

Every subject and topic discussed and learned here is subjected to questioning before any lessons even begin: “Why? Why do we need to learn this? Why is it important? How will it help us in the future?” and I explain for every single one.

However, those are just the regular subjects of Math, English, Sciences, and Arts. Necessary, sometimes incredibly interesting, but sometimes incredibly not. These basic subjects are vital to the foundation of a child’s learning, but they are not the only components of a solid foundation.

In a traditional standard curriculum, does it say:

– Multiplying fractions

– Identifying number Patterns

– Accepting “No” as an answer.

– Healthy communication skills.

I don’t think so… except maybe in alternative curriculums. So what are these fascinating alternative curriculums that are going against the standard systematic instructions that we should be teaching children? Unschooling, homeschooling, worldschooling, and one more: Life. Why is life considered alternative?

Life does not begin when you graduate high school or university. Life does not begin when you get your first job. Life begins before you are even born, in the mother’s womb. Children learn real life skills from birth until their first school years; how to walk, talk, smile, laugh, throw a ball, say their name; and then suddenly, life and learning stop, and school and education begins.

Undoubtedly, schools teach children a lot: how to read, how to write, how to do mental maths, understand the human body, world history, geography and cultures, and many more – skills and information that are valuable as a child becomes an adult in order to go to university, get a job and make money and survive.

Schools also teach children: how to sit for a really long time, how to stand in straight lines, obedience, what not to do, to say sorry, not to bully, not to talk back, how to copy information from the board into a book, that there is an expectation of your intelligence and it’s based on your memory, that a piece of paper is vital to your future in getting a good job – skills and information that are valuable as a child becomes an adult and travels back in time.

People say that we are preparing children for the future, but are we really? Theirs is a future that holds unlimited possibilities with advancements in areas that many of us couldn’t even begin to imagine or comprehend. Are schools preparing children, or holding them back?

Obviously, schools are not the only place where children learn, but for many years, school is where children spend a large chunk of their day. The world has grown and advanced in unbelievable ways throughout history, in science and medicine, technology, architecture and design – everywhere except the education system.

So how is humanity growing and advancing?

We search for life on other planets yet we still can’t accept the differences between the lives on the planet we actually live on.

We have technology that recognizes your voice, fingerprints, and face and connects us to anyone in the world through a screen, yet we still cannot recognize ourselves in others and connect with people through love.

We put hours of resources and energy to prevent diseases, yet not as much to prevent teen suicide and drug addiction.

Science has allowed us to learn more about the human brain but not about the human mind.

We were taught how to talk but not how to communicate.

We can mend bones but not conflicts.
We are told that we can be anything……. But how?

Life can be tough, confusing, and painful – relationships, work, and rollercoasters of emotions – and we all grow up and learn through experiences. But if, from a young age, children are given the tools and skills that we struggle to gain as adults, then maybe life won’t be so tough.

Teachers are guides, just as parents are, and all other adults. Children look to us for guidance, advice, as role models, and to nurture, not just to give instructions and punishments.

Here, our children learn how to read and write, they learn science, geography, history and art. They also learn how to be empathetic, listen attentively, be independent and responsible, recognize their emotions and express themselves. Our children learn that bullying is not okay, but they also learn to understand the reasons behind the behaviours.

Human rights, personal rights, honesty, self-control, mindfulness, compromise, commitment, happiness, forgiveness, morals, values, acceptance, accountability, responsibility…… the list goes on. Why are these not part of the standard education at school? Are they less important than trigonometry and the properties of a trapezoid?

Humans are so much more than a brain. We are heart and soul and love and passion. Dogs obey, robots can be controlled, sheep can be herded, books can be labeled, tvs can be muted… but we have dreams, hopes, questions, opinions, and choices.

Why teach children to talk, if we don’t allow them to ask questions and voice their opinions?

Why tell children that they can be anything they want and to dream big, if we’re only going to tell them later that they’re not smart enough?

Why teach children about emotions, if we don’t also teach them how to express them healthily?

Why teach children to recognize parts of a cell, but not how to recognize signs of depression?

Why teach children to understand calculus, but not how to understand non-verbal behaviour?

Why teach children how to be nice to others, but not how to be nice to themselves?

Why teach children to make pie graphs, but not how to make healthy connections?

Why teach children that they have to say sorry, but not how to forgive?

Why do we tell children to get a good job, but not tell them it isn’t the most important thing in the world?

Why don’t we ask children what they want to learn?

Why don’t we ask children how they felt today, instead of just what they did?

Why not, instead of asking “What do you want to be when you grow up?” ask:

Who do you want to be right now?

Pistachio x


Taking Responsibility


Learning to take responsibility for our own actions is a very simple concept, one which many adults still fail to be able to comprehend.

“I’m sorry, I made a mistake.”

“I didn’t know/ realise.”

“It was an accident, I didn’t mean to.”

“It was my fault.”

“I was wrong.”

Instead, what can often be heard, are such comments as:

“Well, she….”

“I was just…… and then he…..”

Too many of us are looking externally to place blame, instead of looking inwards and accepting the responsibility that we, ourselves, are at fault/ are wrong/ made a mistake. Why are we so afraid to see the fault in ourselves and are yet so quick and willing to find the fault in others.

You have a fight with someone – obviously the other person’s fault for not understanding me.

You lose your job – well, the boss and the whole company are corrupt anyway.

You fail a test – it was too hard, the teacher was unfair.

You fall over – damn shoes, stupid unflat surface, bloody gravity.


In my opinion, the blame game starts at a young age.

Where I live, in Indonesia, I have many times been a witness to ridiculous instances of the blame game with children of a very young age; my own included. For example, a toddler  learning to walk hits the side of a table, falls down, and starts crying. The immediate response is “Naughty table! It was in the way! It made you fall!” Um….. What?

Thus, the child grows up with the understanding that other people, even inanimate objects, are at fault for any incident or accident that occurs to them. This is not teaching the child to take responsibility for his/her own actions.

Acceptance for responsibility cannot only be taken when there is a positive outcome (e.g. Aced an exam, well yes, I studied hard), indeed, responsibility needs to be taken for all aspects of one’s life, positive and negative.

Sometimes, the blame game is completely justified – Running late for a meeting because traffic was really bad, even though you left home early. However, the blame game doesn’t work if you woke up super late in the first place. All that needs to be said is a simple acknowledgment of “It was my fault, I couldn’t wake up this morning and I kept snoozing the alarm.”

Children who do not learn to take responsibility for their actions, will most likely grow up believing that they are never at fault (unless rectified and there’s communication with the child).

This is a process I am personally going through with my 4 year old – everything, at the moment, is “He made me……” “She did it first!” and slowly, daily, we are having talks about what her part in the situation was, before pointing the finger at someone else. Okay, so you shoved him because he shoved you first. Fine. But what was YOUR part in this whole situation? What happened prior to the initial shove? Was there provocation?

Accept responsibility for your part, then take the appropriate steps to rectify the situation or behaviour – apologise, time out to think about actions, firm and consistent messages to her so she understands consequences of negative behaviour.

This can be a tiresome ordeal, because her 4 year mind has not yet developed further to comprehend much outside of herself and a few select close friends, but every second is worth it to ensure that my child will grow up a responsible human being. I am fully aware that my child has a selfish streak and pushy at times – I do not in any way deny that. Her behaviour is also a reflection of me as a parent, but I will not ignore the issue. She is a beautiful child, yes, but she is not perfect, and neither am I.

Every day is another step in being a better person than I was yesterday; every day is a lesson. There are setbacks, drawbacks, and challenges, but as long as what I am doing it for the purpose of better developing a good human being, I will not give up, and I will take responsibility.

Pistachio x


It’s Ok to Say No

Say No

To my children,

It is okay for you to say no.

No, I don’t want you to touch me.

No, I don’t want to tell that stranger my name.

No, I don’t want to hug you.

No, I don’t want to play.

No, I don’t want to share my toy.

No, I don’t want to talk right now.

No, I don’t want to share my food.

But, remember, always give a reason why: I feel uncomfortable, it’s special to me, it’s my last piece of fruit and I’m hungry, I don’t know you and I don’t want you touching me.

Also remember, to always do so gently, unless the person with whom you are talking to, doesn’t back down, disrespects your rights, your personal space, and tries to force you.

You, my children, and ALL children, have a right to say no. Do not ever allow another child, or an adult, bully you into thinking you don’t have a choice.

Make sure though, when you are saying no to somebody in regards to sharing or playing, you are not saying it to be mean, because that is not okay.

Manipulation is not okay.

Threats are not okay.

Being unkind to someone just for the heck of it,  is definitely not okay.

And know this, that I will back you up 200%, not just for my own children, but for any child.

Little shits tend to grow up to be big shits. So don’t let let them take away your right to say no, and at the same time, don’t be one either.

Pistachio x


Red Watercolour

“The purpose of life is not to just be happy.

The purpose of my life is to feel.

You must understand that your pain is essential.”

-Christopher Poindexter

I have always mistrusted those who portray themselves as happy all the time, for I know this isn’t real. As beautiful a notion it may seem, life is not, and should not, be all sunshine, dandelions, rainbows and unicorns.

I can, with honesty and gratitude, say that today I am happy. Those who know me well, or at least know themselves well, understand that I wasn’t always so. A great amount of pain was endured before getting to where I am today, numerous times, and in various forms.

From my father’s death, to being stuck amidst riots, addiction, loss, suicide attempts, heartbreaks, financial dearth and so, so much fear.

Happiness is a grand destination, but the journey to get there is vital.

Pistachio x